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I will now trouble you with my Opinion, on the Choice of your Diversions.

Young Ladies are perpetually talking of Diversions, and talk of them with an Eagerness which deceives themselves; for these Diverfions, which are so eagerly followed, and of which they had formed such pleasing Ideas, often prove much less than they had imagined. The little One returns full of Gravity from a Visit, where she had promised herself a deal of Entertainment; but she hopes to be made Amends at the next Meeting, where probably the may be as much disappointed.

To avoid such vain Fatigues in the Pursuit of Pleasure, young Ladies should form to themselves a right Idea of it, and especially beware of the false and seductive Images fuggested by too lively an Imagination. This it is, which continually carries them beyond Reality, and promises Transports and Joys, which are not in Nature : They are fplendid

Dreams, which, at our waking, leave us : chagrined at the Delusion.

What young Ladies see at a Distance, is much nearer than they conceive: Pleasures 1

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are always at Hand; but it is only with a happy Disposition that they can be embraced: They are the Offspring of Necessity, and unless called for by its Voice, all Pursuit is but so much Labour loft.

A Walk, after having been sedentarily employed, gives a sensible Pleasure; and Relt becomes such in its Turn, if preceded by fome little Fatigue. Every Thing we do may be made a Kind of Pleasure, by doing it seasonably. This Viciffitude, rightly ordered, is what renders Life pleafing; and those, who know not how to mingle Business and Relaxation, can have but little Relish of it.

Now this is the Fault of most of our fine young Ladies : This excessive Fondness of Pleasure, and their eager Pursuit of it, keeps it at a great Distance from them. They will not be told, that Pleasure must be purchased, that nothing less than Labour is the Price of it, and that whoever declines the one, muß go

without the other.

They should therefore know, that this Pleasure, which they so passionately adore, to be renewed, must be laid aside. It is, in its very Nature, a momentary State, an agreeable Sally of the Mind; recreating and enlivening it, when not frequent; but, if continued, would only fatigue and deaden it. Young Ladies, defirous of perpetuating Pleafures, have endeavoured to diversify and refine them: Their luxuriant Invention has multiplied the Objects of Entertainment, and is daily adding to the Number; yet still they are short of their Views. All these imaginary Pleasures being founded only on Vanity, make but a very faint Impreffion; indeed, there are so many Proofs, that to fix Pleasure throughout the Whole of Life, as some young Ladies would have it, is utterly impoffible.

Besides, is it the Part of a rational Creature to make Diverfions its capital Concerns? The youny Lady, in whom this Desire predcminates, will hardly ever make a good Mother, Wife, or Friend, nor so much even as a Member of Society; for a Party of Pleasure, or a Ball, she forgets every Thing; and it is well if, in the Whirl of her Dilipation, the does not forget herself.

In Reality, Virtue is not always the last Sacrifice offered to Inclination, if I may be

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lieve the Writings of some moral Authors. When the common Pleasures pall by repeated Enjoyment, the torpid Mind muft be roused by something more poignant.

The Pleasures we are susceptible of are proportioned to the Extent and Capacity of the Heart, which is not made for Delights and Extacies, transporting it beyond itself : Those are a Kind of Convulsions, which cannot last; but there is an infinite Number of Pleasures, which, if their Impression be less quick, are, on that very Account, the more to be esteemed : The Pleasures daily spring up in various Shapes, and, far from excluding, combine with each other: They produce in the Mind a gentle Warmth, favourable to its Peace, and to preserving it in a happy Equality

These are the Pleasures, which a young Lady may pursue without Danger, and enjoy without Trouble, without Remorse. I cannot help pitying all those, who are deaf to fuch Charms, and who look upon a Life, freed from the wild Tumult of Passions, as dull and melancholy. The Pleasures loft by such an Insensibility, are infinitely preferable

to all they can expect from a dangerous Affe&tion. ' A young Lady of Wit and Discretion chooses Entertainment, where the Mind is sure to be a Gainer, and that without any Lofs to the Heart.

A Person of this valuable Stamp makes all the varying Scenes of Society Matter of Pleasure or Improvement to her. Nature and Art present her with an inexhaustible Fund of Delight : Habituated to Reflection, every Thing speaks and adminifters Delight to her. Indeed, the Mind, which can indif. ferently pass-over so many Objects, without being affected by them, must be strangely debased; but, where the Generality of the Sex find only an infipid Entertainment for the Eye, the young Lady of deeper Comprehension mcets with a new Recreation and Improvement to the Mind.

To know not what to do with oneself, amidit innumerable Objects for Employment

and Exercise, betrays a very narrow and conEn fined Way of thinking; and a greater Mark * ftill of Weakness, is the way in which some divert their Lowness of Spirits. Our Pleasures, like our Thoughts, take

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