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been devoted, of unfolding and making clear the divine mission of Sorrow. To how many sufferers, lately, have the words of this book been as the words of life,-raising the prostrate and fallen to the sense that there yet remains for them duty, nay glory! If the Author could see the sick beds where they have been treasured, kept nigh beneath the pillow with other sacred things; the wasted hands that have eagerly grasped them,—the faded eyes that have grown lustrous as they read, he would take comfort from the thought that, inasmuch as God requires a true word to be spoken for the sustenance of human hearts, no price can be too costly for the qualifications, that enable that word to be spoken with reality and power.

If to one thus solaced we had the means of sending thanks, of breathing back a sustaining word in return for all we have received, we would employ for the purpose the lines, not faultless but sufficient through their earnestness, which Monckton Milnes, in his late volume, has addressed to one evidently in the circumstances of the Author of Life in the Sick Room.'

“Mortal! that standest on a point of time,

With an eternity on either hand,
Thou hast one duty above all sublime,

Where thou art placed serenely there to stand :
To stand undaunted by the threatening death,

Or harder circumstance of living doom,
Nor less untempted by the odorous breath

Of Hope, that rises even from the tomb.
"For Hope will never dull the present pain,

And Time will never keep thee safe from fall,
Unless thou hast in thee a mind to reign

Over thyself, as God is over all.
'Tis well in deeds of good, though small, to strive,

'T is well some part of ill, though small, to cure,
'T is well with onward, upward, hopes to strive,

Yet better and diviner to endure.
• What but this virtue's solitary power,

Through all the lusts and dreams of Greece and Rome,
Bore the selected spirits of the hour

Safe to a distant, immaterial home?
What but this lesson, resolutely taught,

Of Resignation, as God's claim and due,
Hallows the sensuous hopes of Eastern thought,

And makes Mohammed's mission almost true?
“But in that patience was the seed of scorn-

Scorn of the world and brotherhood of man ;
Not patience such as in the manger born

Up to the cross endured its earthly span.

* Thou must endure, yet loving all the while,

Above, yet never separate from, thy kind,-
Meet every frailty with the gentlest smile,

Though to no possible depth of evil blind.
« This is the riddle thou hast life to solve ;

But in the task thou shalt not work alone;
For, while the worlds about the sun revolve,

God's heart and mind are ever with his own.” We have introduced the second work, ' Practical Suggestions towards alleviating the Sufferings of the Sick,' into the heading of this Article, not for the purpose of reviewing it, for it is the third Edition, published in 1837, that lies before us, but to draw attention to a book, not very widely known, full of practical wisdom, and that might prove an invaluable help and comfort to friend, nurse, physician, and invalid. It is more comprehensive in its plan than “Life in the Sick Room,' with which it is often parallel in experience and suggestion, and only less interesting because it is a collection of experiences and testimonies, and not the living fruits of a single mind. It is a Book to lie by the patient and his attendants to be taken up at intervals,and rarely will it fail to divert the sufferer from himself, or to suggest some new artifice of kindness and wisdom even to the most skilful and tender nurse.

The first part consists chiefly of Suggestions offered to the friends and attendants of the Sick, including nurse, visitor, and physician.

How true is this plea in justification of a new book in the service of the Sick!

“ The works hitherto published, are chiefly intended for their spiritual aid, and for short and dangerous attacks of illness, and are seldom applicable to the depression and debility of protracted disorders; they are written in cold blood by the healthy ; and instead of coming home to the business and bosom' of the poor Patient, seem to him as though couched in a foreign language. They lay the body out of the question, at the very time when it is becoming to the poor sufferer, alas ! almost every thing."-p. 3.

We may mention one or two instances of parallel experience and suggestion with Life in the Sick Room.

Thus : “Narrative is the least injurious reading for Invalids; and travels, biography, history, or any subjects that carry them away from themselves, the most salutary—having an effect on the mind and spirits similar in kind, though less in degree, to that produced on the body by change of air and scene.”—p. 20.

Again : Another requisition, sometimes made from an Invalid, is equally distressing, because impossible to be complied with ; he is often exhorted not to let distressing subjects dwell on his mind so much : not to allow himself to be so much affected by such and such thoughts;' not to torment himself, or be so anxious, &c.,—and is sometimes blamed for not making efforts to disengage his mind-efforts as wholly impracticable to him, as it would be to heal a wound in the flesh, or set a broken bone, by an act of volition.”-p. 47.

With respect to the advisableness of excluding friends in seasons of the greatest suffering :

" There are times when the utmost kindness of beloved and trusted friends can do or bear so little for him, that the Patient is almost tempted to wish the endeavour were not made; in short, that such friends were not present, in order that there might yet be something left to hope in on earth, some possibility of relief to look for ; and that the practical conviction might be warded off, that even they can do nothing for me now. Alas! the sufferer looks every way, and calls to everything, for relief, till the loud replies from every quarter, ' It is not in me,' prove how vain is the help of man, and should turn the forlorn heart to the only true source of help and consolation, to Him who says, • In me is thy help,'— Look unto me,'—' I am the Lord that helpeth thee.'"-p. 59.

With respect to truth and simplicity of communication with the Invalid on the realities of his state :

“ One might be almost tempted to conclude that a decree had gone forth against concealment, so very seldom has it proved successful.

• Where there is the probable prospect of serious, long, or dangerous illness, it is generally best for both parties, certainly for the Invalid, to have it recognised. For the nurse or friend to be always pretending to expect him soon to be well, or to take it for granted the disorder is only a slight one, when it is known to be a serious one, and so refer to the future under that impression, is vexing to the patient, who, in order to avoid dispute, is, perhaps, induced to subscribe to this idea, and to conceal his own knowledge of his state. In what can this plan of mutual dissimulation end, but in depriving the Patient of those advantages which arise from a full recognition of his claims to pity and attention !"

p. 82.

With respect to the necessity of friends and nurses cheerfully reminding the Patient how time passes, so that through ignorance he should not wear out the strength and affection of attendants :

“ Even of fatigue they cannot be expected to form an adequate estimate; they are apt to compare it with pain, and so to underrate it ; it would be unreasonable to expect them to be considerate. The attendants and friends should themselves be considerate for the Patient, by taking care of themselves, as we have already suggested, and showing that they do so; telling when they are tired, and going to rest, &c.; and that, not in a tone of apology or expostulation, but as taking for granted they are thus doing what the poor Patients would most earnestly wish and require, and what they would have requested, had not their own sufferings driven it out of their recollection—not out of their disposition. Believe-conclude—that they are most anxious you

should not be injured by your attendance, and that nothing is so bitter to them as hearing or perceiving that you are so. They are particularly alive to self-reproach, and perhaps this is of all others the subject on which it is most easily excited, and most bitterly felt."-p. 85.

With regard to the importance of keeping up continually a healing intercourse with God's grace in Nature :

“ When the pressure of pain will allow me to look through the window on the face of nature, methinks I can make more a companion of its various features then when I have been able to walk abroad among them in the full relish of health. The sky, that part of the landscape which in general has not its due proportion of regard, seems full of intelligence; and when the sun 'paints the sky gay as he sinks to his rest,' and

The living eyes of heaven
Awake, quick kindling o'er the face of ether

One boundless blaze, the most sick heart becomes elevated and softened. We are raised to sublime contemplations; we are melted to tender recollections ; we seem to escape from this lower scene, and to aspire to a loftier existence; to think higher thoughts, to feel purer feelings, and become conscious to the prospect, and recognize the hope, of some superior mode of being.”—p. 142, part ii.

We might carry these parallels much farther : they are interesting as confirmatory experience, both works being written by Invalids.

There is frequently great force and point in the manner in which sentiments, forcible in themselves, are expressed. For example:

Sufferings are the only relics of the true Cross, and, when turned to our spiritual good, they almost perform the miracles which blind superstition ascribes to the false ones.”—p. 102.

Such healthful reading for the sick have Travels and Voyages appeared to the Authors of this work, that they have added in an Appendix, amongst other important matters of a similar kind, a valuable list of those which have been found, by experience, the most interesting and effective.

The Second Part consists of suggestions offered to the Invalid himself; passages from Scripture adapted to his wants, in various moods; and miscellaneous Extracts, judiciously selected from a large range of writers who have treated of these subjects. To these are added a collection of Prayers adapted to the various vicissitudes of need and feeling in an Invalid, and a selection of devotional Poetry, with which the work throughout is interspersed.

With one of these passages, from Milton, we take farewell of a subject on which none but the experienced, or the most true and tender of observers, are qualified to speak; glad to believe that the sick and the suffering depend not on the wisdom of the untried, and the patience of the healthy, but have the Comforter very nigh unto them, even in their hearts."

Many are the sayings of the wise,
In ancient and in modern books enroll’d,
Extolling patience as the truest fortitude ;
But with the afflicted in his pangs, their sound
Little prevails ; or rather seems a tune
Harsh, and of dissonant mood from his complaint;
Unless he feel within,
Some source of consolation from above,
Secret refreshings, that repair his strength,
And fainting spirits uphold."

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